A stay-at-home-yet-still-self-employed-mom

Little Beanie was running all over the cafe. Thankfully the cafe was empty and she wasn't a nuisance to anyone.

I met up with some of of blog friends for tea recently at this really nice cafe, which was in this really swanky hotel.

"Wahhhhhh... so tai-tai!" Some of my friends claimed. They are envious that I can "play with my daughter the whole day", "drink tea at 3 pm in the afternoon with fellow Tai-Tai friends", and for those without children, they think that I am chilling at home with a glass of Lychee Martini while surfing the net all day.

Among all my friends, I am the only one who quit a full-time job to be a stay-at-home-yet-still-self-employed-Mom.

To my friends who are full-time working moms, they think that I am lucky because I get to spend quality time with my daughter and now that I have a helper, I do not have to do housework anymore, and thus I am now a "tai-tai".

Nothing could be further from the truth.

Tai-Tai... I am certainty NOT!

First and foremost, I am self-employed. Yes, I work from home most of the time but I do work. I do go for trainings, meet up with clients, clear admin work, think of ways to get more clients and prospects and I work when Beanie is asleep.

I face with the pressure of not meeting my sales target, not bringing a meaningful second income to my household, not contributing to my CPF and according to my mother, I am wasting my degree and CFA away by being a stay-at-home-yet-still-self-employed-mom.

And because I am half a stay-at-home-mom, I also face the guilt of not doing enough of home-schooling for Beanie. I try to read to her as much as I can, I try to do art-and-craft work when I have the time, I take out my violin and play some simple songs to create my own "music lessons", I bring her out for a swim or a little romp at the playground whenever the weather permits.

But all these are ad-hoc and too free-style. Compared to some of the moms who blog about their organized learning activities with the flash cards and sensory toys, I seem to be doing Beanie a huge injustice.

And then there will be days when I would worry about the family's finances. What if my husband loses his job? How can we start to plan for our retirement with only 1 income? Can I afford to send Beanie to a good pre-school? (the answer is "no")

Sigh! The perils of being a stay-at-home-yet-still-self-employed-mom!

And I cried buckets at Les Miserables

Can any girl watch Les Miserables without shedding a tear?

She must be one very tough lady.

When I watched Les Mis recently at the movies, I was pretty sure that all females left the theatre with wet tissues in their hands. As for me, I was a total disgrace, I basically started bawling my eyes out at the moment Fantine sang I Dreamed A Dream until to the end of the movie.

And the movie was my third time watching Les Mis.

Les Miserables was my very first musical in my life. I remembered I was in secondary 3 when I watched the Australian cast at Kallang Theater. It was a school trip and I caught it with my classmates on a matinee. All of us were so excited and even though our seats were so very far away from the stage, we were totally spellbound by the moving storyline, the wonderful score and the fantastic stage setup . Les Mis had set the bar high. To date, it has remained to be my all time favorite musical at all time.

I remembered that I did not fully understand the storyline and at times, I was confused with the various characters. Well... some of them did look the same when I was like 5 km away from the stage. And it didn't help that there wasn't any subtitles, so half the time, I didn't understand what the performers were singing about.

Nonetheless, I still cried buckets when everyone died in the end. Well... almost everyone except for lucky Corsette and Marius.

At 15 years old, I told myself that I MUST watch Les Miserables again and I would pay for the best seats that I could afford.

And I did.

I watched Les Mis again in 2001 when I visited Hub in London. And this time round, I paid a grand total of 50 pounds (which was a lot of money as I was still a poor student and the exchange rate was S$3 to a Pound) for a matinee show. But I had a really good seat, I was seated on the 5th row from the stage and I could see the expressions of the actors/actresses, I could feel the live music in my ears and felt as if I was acting in the musical!

And for the second time, I cried buckets while watching the show. The funniest thing was that I watched the musical alone and there was this another young lady (most likely a tourist) who also came alone. So the both of us were sharing tissues, snorting loudly and basically bawling our eyes out. It was as if we knew Fantine or Eponie personally or something. When the curtain finally closed and after all the encores, my "crying partner" turned to me and gave me a little hug. "What a musical!" she said. And all I could do was to nod my head.

And so, at the recent movie, my third time watching Les Mis, I was still very moved by the sad story and songs. The singings could be better but most of the casts were Hollywood actors and actresses, and for that, it was very good effort already.

Ahh... if I had the chance, I would definitely catch Les Miserables Live once again!

Wedding in the family

One of my younger brothers, KB got married recently. Geez... it sure felt weird to see my little brother getting married.

I could still remember how we used to fight over EVERYTHING. And I was the mean older sister who always bullied my 2 younger brothers then. KB is the second kid, and before my youngest brother came along, KB and I were the best of playmates. Despite the fact that I bullied him all the time, he would still tug along his smelly bolster and followed me wherever I went.

I went to the playground, he followed. I went to the coffee shop to buy breakfast, he followed. I went to the neighbour's house to play, he followed. He was the pesty little brother whom I couldn't get rid of!

He even wanted to follow me to kindergarten. I remembered how he would cry whenever I got on the school bus and he was too young to follow me to school.

And now, my little annoying brother will be entering a new chapter in his life. *cue: a little boy carrying his smelly bolster flashed before me*

Nonetheless, I sincerely wish for eternal bliss and happiness to the newly wedded couple and hopefully they will provide a playmate for Beanie soon. ;)

Beanie, being the only niece was supposed to serve tea to the new couple. But she was too young to hold the fragile teacup, so a packet of Peach Tea was served instead. Haha...

Congratulations to KB and PS once again!

What a X'mas dinner!



Little Beanie also joined us in the X'mas feasting!



Home-cured salmon with poached quail eggs and caviar 



Choco lava cake, absolutely YUMMZ!



Cheers to Chef Han for the very delicious X'mas dinner!



Wines for the night. These people sure can drink!

 For the past few years, Hub and I have been organizing charity Christmas dinners where we would provide the food and wine, and the guests would donate accordingly. We would then choose a charity organization to donate the pooled money that we had raised during the charity dinner.

This year, we will be donating to Lions Home for the Elders.

And I must say that this year, we had the best X'mas dinner ever!

First, we had the best fortune to have Chef Han, a promising up and coming chef, who is looking to open a restaurant next year, to prepare and cook for us. For the very first time, I wasn't slaving away in the kitchen and could actually sit down and enjoy the food and wine. ;)

Secondly, the food prepared by Chef Han was like a hundred times better than mine. It was RESTAURANT standard with restaurant presentation. We had 5 courses and everything was exquisite yet home-made by Chef Han. Even the cured salmon! It was the best "private kitchen" dinning experience ever.

Beanie had a lot of fun too, mingling with everyone and raising her water bottle to "cheers" with the guests. Very very cute!

All in all, it was a wonderful X'mas dinner. We can't wait to throw another one next year. However, by then Chef Han will most probably have opened his own restaurant, so I doubt he can be our guest chef anymore...

Nonetheless, it was a wonderful evening to have my hubba, Beanie and good friends with me on Christmas's eve. What a X'mas dinner, a perfect close to 2012!

"Peek-a-boo, mama!"

A cheeky photo of Beanie, just wana share with all of you. ;)

Merry X'mas and a Happy Happy New Year ahead!

Beanie's update

A little update on Beanie:

She is hitting 16 months soon, Geez! My baby is officially a toddler at 1 year 4 months. She has started to exert her independence and at times, insisted of doing things her way.

Example:
We were supposed to head out for an outing, and so I got her to wear a pretty little dress. Beanie got very upset that she had to wear a dress and started a melt down. She pulled and tugged at her dress while screaming her head off. End of the day, I had to change out the dress and she wore a pair of tights and a T-shirt instead. Ok... Beanie is NOT into dresses.

Beanie has also started to say a few words. Below is her list of words:
1) MaMa
2) PaPa
3) Car (she will say "CAR...." whenever she sees a car. She will climb on the sofa everyday to look out of the window to spot for cars)
4) Bus (Same action as above, just that instead of "car....", she will say "Bahhhhh")
5) Turtle (We have a puzzle where she has to match various sea creatures to their respective cut-out shapes and somehow, she has taken a fancy to Turtle)
6) Bear (All animals are "bear" to her. When she sees a dog, she will go "BEAR!!!". When she sees a cat, she will go "BEAR" too)
7) Milk (sounds more like "ilk" actually)
8) Bird (She will point out pigeons and go "Bird....")
9)马 (the only chinese word so far, thanks to a picture book)

Beanie has also began to connect pictures with actual items. Just earlier this evening, she was trying to tell me that she wanted to eat grapes. She kept pointing towards the fridge but both my maid and myself had no idea what Beanie was trying to say. Exasperated, she fetched one of her picture books, flipped to a page and pointed to a bunch of grapes.

"Ohhh, so you want to eat grapes?"

Beanie nodded and ran to the fridge. And so I gave her a little bunch of grapes to munch. She took the bowl of grapes to her picture book, pointed at the picture of grapes again and begun to eat her grapes quietly.

All these while, I was very amused by her. My little Beanie is growing up so fast!

Missing Cookie... ...

Cookie has been missing for the past 4 weeks. I've looked around the whole block for her, asked a few neighbors whether they have seen Cookie, but nope. No signs of her and none of the neighbors knew her whereabouts either.

Sigh. I really hope that she is well and alive.

The day when we adopted Cookie as our cat, I kind of knew that this day would happen. Although we took her in "officially", she was still free to roam out of our apartment whenever she felt like it. Many a times, she would spend her afternoons chasing after birds at the void deck or I would catch her eating grass at one of the grass patches at our car park.

As much as I always call her "Cookie, the Stupid Cat". I really miss her a lot and wish that she will somehow find her way home.

A short getaway to Phuket

A little garland to welcome Beanie to the resort

Family Photo!

Mommy, can I order this?

So after various rounds of debates with the Hub, both of us finally decided to lug Beanie along to our short getaway to Phuket. Luckily for us, our neighbors came along with us and the extra 2 pairs of hands came in very handy to carry Beanie around.

We stayed at JW Marriott Home Vacation Club 4-days-3-nights FOR FREE?! But there was a catch, we had to sit through a 90 mins sales pitch for the hotel's "vacation club points purchase scheme". For Hub and I, both of us went for this free stay with our eyes open but ears closed. So, after 2 hours, we still walked out of the presentation without buying or signing anything.

Yay! *do a victory dance*

But seriously, for a free stay. It was totally worth it. The hotel room was more like a service apartment with a fully a equipped kitchen, 2 bedrooms and decent size dinning & living area. Hotel service was prompt and every staff was polite and helpful.

All in all, this short getaway was very enjoyable. So much so that, we are planning for another short trip to Penang at the end of December!

Haha! And yes, Beanie will go with us too!

Beanie, the little coffee connoisseur

"Mmmmm... the coffee tastes good!"

"Wah! The Pecan Lime Tart looks yummy too!"

Chye Seng Huat Hardware: A very cool and chill-out place.

Check out the retro laps and window grills!

Beanie is acting cute in front of the camera again

We checked out 2 very cool coffee joints recently: Chye Seng Huat Hardware (a review by chubby hubby) and Loysel's Toy Cafe (review by Lady Iron Chef). Both blogs wrote excellent reviews on the cafes, thus I will not repeat.

What I will add is that both cafes are opened by the same guys who are behind Papa Palheta, so the coffee is good. Both cafes are situated at really "ulu" places but they are always packed??!! Both cafes have really cool vibes and are surprisingly very baby-friendly.

And yup, we did bring Beanie along to conduct our baby-friendy-or-not tests and both cafes passed with flying colors! Both cafes have open spaces for little tykes to run around, so parents can actually sit back, relax and smell a decent cup of coffee.

Ahh..... .... bliss.

So if you are looking for a chill-out place for a lazy sunday brunch or a catch-up with friends, both cafes are recommended if you are adventurous enough for something off the beaten track. 

Breast Feeding at 15 months

Yup, Beanie is still on breast milk at 15 months. Although my milk supply is really low these days, Beanie will still scream "Nei Nei!!! Nei Nei!!! Nei Nei!!!" in the mornings and nights, demanding to be  latched. 

If I were to ignore her, she would get really upset and cry really pitifully. So, I would usually cave in and latch her anyway. 

I've tried to wean her by introducing fresh milk and she has also started drinking fresh milk, but she prefers to drink milk from a cup and not from a bottle. Therefore, she does not see fresh milk as a replacement to breast milk.

I am prepared to breastfeed her till about 18 months to 2 years old but hopefully not any older! Meanwhile, I better start the routine of getting Beanie to drink milk from a cup in the mornings and nights to kick start the weaning process.

When the demand stops, the supply will stop too. And I can finally have my boobs to myself again.

Missing in action for the wrong reasons

I've not been updating my blog recently and the reason is really dumb: I got sucked into watching dramas online.

I know... very "auntie" right? I am rather ashamed about my behavior as well.

About 2 weeks ago, I was chasing after a korean drama: "Queen In Hyun's Man", which is also currently showing on Channel U on Sundays 10 - 11.30 pm. This drama only consisted of 16 episodes, so I managed to finish it in about 3 days. Easy Peasy...

Then I told myself that I could not watch another drama and should focus my time on value-adding activities instead, be it work, exercise or play with Beanie.

Unfortunately, I got to know of another Chinese drama, which was supposedly really popular in China. The drama: "Legend of Zhen Huan", a grand total of 76 episodes?!??!!!

Geez. Drama addiction is the WORST.

I became this crazy woman who simply had to watch the drama.

I stopped playing with Beanie, I only worked when I absolutely had to, I slept at 3 am, my husband stopped talking to me because I became this drama-addict who had dark rings under my eyes, messy hair and zombie-like appearance.

All in all, it was the worst addiction ever.

Thankfully it was 76 episodes and not 276 episodes. Or else, my husband would have probably divorced me by the end of the 276th episodes.

No. More. Dramas. For. Me. Ever.

Beanie's music classes

"Mom, you want me to play your violin as a cello?"

Caveat: I am not musically inclined and I barely can play the violin.

I am the least qualified music teacher in the world to teach my daughter music. But she is only 14 months old and seriously, I am too cheapskate to pay a few hundred bucks a month to expose her to music in those chi-chi music lessons, where I can actually do the same at home.

Well.... I did learn the violin before. So I have the Suzuki Violin CDs level 1 and 2, which I play once a week to conduct these "music classes" with Beanie. Whenever I play the CDs, I would hold her in my arms and dance around the house, according to the rhythm of the music. 

Beanie enjoyed the whole dancing-to-the-rhythm exercise because she:

1) got the chance to be carried by me (I seldom carry her at home because I want her to learn to play independently)

2) we jiggled around the house and when the tempo got fast, I started to swing her in the air and she would scream with joy. That adrenaline junkie!

As for me, it would be a TOTAL work-out. Try carrying a 10 kg bag of rice and jiggle around the house for like 10 mins.

After that, we would sit on the floor and I would then clap my hands or snap my fingers according to the rhythm of the music. Beanie would sometimes imitate me by clapping along, or she would simply shake her bum-bum according to the music and dance.

Sometimes I would take out my violin to let her play with it, or I would play a simple song, usually Twinkle Twinkle Little Stars. 

The "music class" seldom last more than 15-20 mins. Her attention span is only that long. After that, she will either just wander around the house or go to her toy box to dig out her favorite toys. 

There, I just saved myself a few hundred bucks a month. Ha!

Little Picasso at work

To encourage creativity and to hone Beanie's fine motor skills, I stuck 2 pieces of mahjiong papers on the walls of my balcony to allow her to scribble and draw freely at her will.

I would first demonstrate by drawing apples and stars, sang happy songs to keep the session fun and interesting.

However, Beanie doesn't like to draw. She would either just stare at me blankly and then ran away to chase after Cookie for like the 100th times since 7 am in the morning, or she would just open my drawers and cupboards and proceed to empty them.

Nonetheless, I persisted. I continued with the "art class" weeks after weeks.

When I gave her crayons, she ended up using her little fingers to scrape and dig at the tips of the crayons.

When I gave her chalk, she had more fun breaking the chalk to small pieces and subsequently she tried to eat them!

When I gave her magic pens, she ended up drawing her hands, which I am ok with. At least she was drawing something!

But she has absolutely no interest in drawing on the mahjiong paper.

So one day, I bought water soluble paints and a brush and showed her how to paint.

Finally, she managed to keep herself busy for like 15 minutes! She was intrigued by the water changing color whenever she dipped the brush. She enjoyed splashing water all over the place and most importantly, she finally got the idea of holding the brush and begun to paint!

Yeah! That's an important milestone in my opinion!

If only the mess wasn't such a pain. Thankfully the helper could help me with the cleaning up!

Cycling at East Coast Park

We brought Beanie to East Coast park last friday and she had her very first bicycle ride. She absolutely loved cycling! She was rather apprehensive at the beginning when I strapped her to the baby seat but once Hub started paddling, she started grinning from ear to ear and even raised her arms to feel the breeze. It got to the point where she would actually protest when we stopped for a break or to adjust her little hat.

As you can see, the sky was grey so after 30 mins of cycling, it rained on us and so we had to take shelter. Thankfully the rain cleared within half and hour and we continued on. It was a friday and after the rain, the cycling tracks were totally deserted. We had East Coast Park to ourselves! ;)

I am now thinking of buying a bicycle so that I can cycle to Bishan Park with Beanie. Time to go bike shopping!

Beanie at MacRitchie's submerged boardwalk

woooo... water!

Yeah! I have the boardwalk all to myself!

Hello Mommy!

The deepest part of the boardwalk barely reached her ankles

We brought Beanie to MacRitchie Reservoir 2 weekends ago. The idea was to allow her to breathe some fresh air and get in touch with Mother Nature.

Unfortunately, it started to pour when we arrived, so we had to take shelter for about 30 mins or so. Luckily for Beanie, the rain cleared and we continued to explore the reservoir.

Before Beanie came along, we used to run at the MacRitchie reservoir almost every weekend. Hub would usually do the 11 km route, while I would just run the 5.5 km route. Ahhh... those were the days!

There was a new feature at the reservoir, which was the Submerged Boardwalk where water from the reservoir would.. hrm, submerge the boardwalk lah.

Since we were there just after the rain, there wasn't a single soul. So Beanie had the luxury of having the boardwalk all to herself!

Beanie, the water-baby was thrilled to splash around and I had come prepared with a change of clothes and diaper. So I just let her loose and she had a great time horsing around on the boardwalk.

But as you can see from the pictures, the boardwalk wasn't very interesting nor educational. In fact, I was very disappointed and had expected more from the boardwalk. Maybe partially submerged plants could line the sides of the boardwalk, with colorful signs and drawings that explained how these plants helped in the purification of the water?

Nonetheless, it was still very relaxing to breathe in the fresh air, with all the greenery around us and the view of the beautiful reservoir.

We will definitely be back!

Beanie at Bishan Park 1

Erm Mommy... what are these blocks?

Yeah! Water!!!

 Look Mommy, I'm crawling in a drain?!?!

Little whirlpools for children to play

We went to check out Bishan Park One (the one nearer to Seletar) with Little Beanie many weeks ago. Way before she was sick... yup, I have that many back-log posts to update?!

Anyway, we heard good things about the water playground at Bishan Park One and so decided to bring Beanie, the water baby to check it out and boy, did Beanie have lots of fun!

Instead of the usual water fountain style of playground (think Bugis junction's water fountain), Bishan Park One's water playground was so much more interactive and interesting.

There were many little "dams" that children could operate on to accumulate water to form ponds and reservoirs. And upon release of these "dams", children would then experience first-hand, the pressure of water that flowed fast and furious down the drains and whirlpools.

There were also many little "molehills"for chidden to climb and basically monkey about.

Beanie was too young to understand all these. She was just so thrill to see water and splashing around with older kids and running after them.

It was so so cute to watch!

I highly recommend this water playground to parents with young children. In fact, there were a few kids who were about 8-10 years old, and they too, seemed to have enjoyed themselves.

Do note that this water playground operates from 8 am - 11 am, 4 pm to 8 pm on WEEKENDS only. If you were to go on a weekday, no water will sprout out. Not even a drop!

Dr Beanie

Dr Beanie and her patient, Bernie

Yes, it's your turn now. Please come in.

Beanie was down with viral fever for the whole of last week. Her fever wasn't high, it hovered between 37.5 to 38.5 deg C but she had some ulcers in her mouth, and that made her extremely fussy.

Yup, ulcers in the mouth but no ulcers on her hand or foot or butt. Thus, it wasn't HFMD.

But the ulcers didn't allow her to eat nor sleep and a hungry-and-sleepy Beanie was a fussy Beanie.

She wouldn't eat anything except yogurt and some cereal, but yogurt and cereal couldn't fill her stomach, so she wanted to nurse every 3 hours.

Even at night.

Yup, back to the dark days where I had to breastfeed her every 3 hours again?!

And because she was in such a bad mood, every little thing could cause a melt down.

Tried to get her to drink water, CRY.

Didn't give her the pacifier, CRY. (She is only allowed to have her pacifier at nap or bed-time)

Carried her out of the bath tub because bath-time was over. CRY.

Wanted to change her poopy diapers, also CRY.

Woah.... Beanie was driving me crazy!!!

Luckily, my FDW was around to help out and I could sneak in some previous sleep. Or else, I would have left Beanie at the Recycle Bin near my block.

After 5 days of fussiness, Beanie has made a full recovery and she is now back to her usual chirpy self. And she is sleeping through the night once again.

Hurray!

Book Review: Internal Drive Theory, Motivate your child to want to study

OK, this book review is way over due. I have actually finished reading the book months earlier but somehow simply did not have the time to write a proper review.

I am very proud to say that I actually know the author of this book: Internal Drive Theory, Motivate your child to want to study. How cool is that?! You can find out more about the author, Dr Petunia Lee and her book here.

Alright, back to the book review, here's what I like about the book:

i) It is is very easy to read. When I am reading the book, it feels like Petunia is talking to me. Concepts are clearly put across and easily understood.

ii) It is written within the context of Singapore's education system, which to me, is very important. I have read other books regarding early childhood and Home-schooling, but those books are written by authors who are from less rigorous education systems. Singapore's education system is not for the faint-hearted. We all know how competitive it is and this book shares tips and methods to encourage and motivate your child to want to excel in his/her school work.

iii) Real live examples. Petunia conducts her "experiments" on her son, so her methods are tried and tested with success! I guess it also helps that I read Petunia's blog regularly, and thus I can relate to her and her son, Little Boy very well.

iv) Very cute illustrations. Petunia's daughter is quite an artist! She designed the cover page, as well as all the illustrations in the book. These cute drawings kept me very entertained! ;)

v) Realistic. This book is written from the perspective of a mother. Other than to motivate your child to want to excel in his/her school work, this book also sets the right tone in encouraging parents to teach their children the important values in life.

In conclusion, I will definitely recommend this book to parents who have young children. In fact, I can foresee myself re-reading this book again and again when Beanie starts her primary education.

False Alarm

Last 10 days have been rather stressful because of a possibility that Beanie might have a little sister or brother next year!

Thankfully, it was a false alarm. *BIG SIGH OF RELIEF*

Don't be mistaken, I do want Beanie to have a younger sibling, but I'm thinking of planning for one when she is at least 18 months old. Just not right now.

Phew... now I can go ahead and plan for a familiy holiday in Dec or early Jan next year. I'm thinking of Penang (especially after reading Petunia's trip). I have never been to Penang and I'm dying to eat the REAL Penang Char Kway Tiao, Laksa, Prawn Mee... etc.

Just the thought makes me very hungry already.

But what about Beanie?

On one hand, I think it's time for Hubba and I to have some romantic, couple time. And nothing bonds us more than good, cheap, solid street food. On the other hand, it will be fun for Beanie to experience Penang's laidback charm and I think she will enjoy the street food too!

Argh. Decisions, decisions, decisions.

To travel or not to travel. To lug Beane along or not to lug Beanie along?

Any suggestions?

My 2 cents on Early Childhood Education

When I was a kid, I went to a kick-ass kindergarten where I spent most of the time playing. The school had a huge playground and a little pool for water-play. I remembered running and playing “catching” with my little friends, climbing the monkey bars, eating grass and later discovered that grass tasted rather bitter. We would have 20-30 minutes of free play at the playground every day and 5 children would be chosen each day to play at the pool.

Oh, the joy of being chosen to play at the pool was beyond words. We would actively participate in our classes to earn points so that we could play at the pool. The teachers were very encouraging and always prompted us to be good children and gave us stars to boost our “scores”.

When it was time for the water-play, we would put on our raincoat and little boots. We would eagerly take the basket of toys and trotted happily to the little pool while the other children looked at us in envy. The girls would usually pretend to be their mummies while bathing the little dolls. The boys would have little boats and pretended that they were the explorers of the world, a-la mini Christopher Columbus. The teachers will just keep an eye on us to ensure our safety and other than that, they did not interfere and the children had 20-30 minutes of uninterrupted free play.

I did not remember there was any homework nor did we spend much time doing worksheets. Instead, we had many hours of art and craft work, and I remembered there were days where we had to prepare our own snacks by making sandwiches and other days we had to clean the toilets. School was really fun and I looked forward to going to school everyday!

How many pre-school curretly are like my Kindergarten, I wonder? Can I still find such a pre-school without paying through my nose?

Beanie is only 1 year old, so I am still taking things easy. Whenever I am at home and as long as weather permits, I will bring her to the playgrounds near my flat or a quick swim at the public pool. Children needs sunshine to grow and it upsets me to see young children coop at in an air-conditioned room, doing worksheets instead of sliding down the slides, spinning themselves silly on the grass and playing catching with their friends.

I have friends who are sending their barely 20 months-old kids to enrichment classes to learn ABC. Seriously? You mean, as a parent, you cannot teach your 20 month old how to read the ABCs at home? Or some Shichida class where the tearchers flash fashcards at 8 months old babies. *shudder*

All parents want the best for their kids, but at what expense, we need to ask ourselves. Kids can only be kids once... please let them have their childhood.